Spotting A Job Vacancy

This guide is one in a series that will help you find a job. It contains information about where
to find out about potential vacancies.
Understanding the job market


Trying to find a new job can be both exciting and rewarding. It doesn’t need to be hard work if
you know where to look and how to go about it. Every day hundreds of new vacancies
become available. The trick is to find out what’s on offer and respond quickly.
Employers recruit in a number of ways, and you may be surprised to learn that only one third
of vacancies are ever advertised. Consequently, to be successful at finding a job that suits
you, you need to use all of the usual channels but also look at other methods of finding out
about vacancies. Most Jobseekers look at newspaper adverts to find vacancies, so do this
but also go to your local Jobcentre and register with recruitment agencies.
Know what you want


Before you start looking for a job, take a little time to work out what you want and what you
can do. Consider your skills and experience. Doing this will save you a lot of time when you
begin applying for jobs.
Remember, you don’t always see your own strengths. Ask your friends, family and previous
work colleagues what they think your strengths are. Even if you’ve never worked before, you
will have qualities that employers will be looking for.
Make a list of what you want, including:


• Location
• Full time or part time
• Temporary or permanent
• Hours
• Training or opportunities to progress
• Pay


Next, make a list of your qualities:
• Skills
• Experience
• Strengths
• Qualifications
• Personality


Employers place a great emphasis on personality and attitude. If you’ve got a friendly
personality and a good attitude to work and responsibility make sure you show it.
When you review your lists you may feel you’ve set what you want at a higher level than the
skills and experience you’ve currently got. This isn’t a problem. In this case make what you
want your goal and look for jobs that will be the starting point for you to develop the
experience and skills you need to grow your career.


Check out the options


Once you have identified the type of job you want the next step is to look for suitable
vacancies. Let’s look more closely at the three main routes to a job and then at some of the
less well known options:


• Newspaper adverts: most newspapers, local or national, have jobs sections. The
daily papers usually have a special jobs day each week when most of the vacancies
appear. Your newsagents will be able to tell you which days these are. Remember,
you don’t have to buy the newspaper as the local library will have a reference copy
you can look through.


• Jobcentre: Jobcentres display a wide range of vacancies which are updated daily. If
you can it’s worth visiting the Jobcentre everyday so you can respond to opportunities
as soon as they are displayed.


• Jobseekers Direct: if you find it difficult to get to your local Jobcentre then you can
use the telephone job service line. For the cost of a local call, you can contact
Jobseekers Direct to find out more about current vacancies. In some cases, they
may be able to arrange an interview for you while you’re on the phone.


• Recruitment agencies/consultancies: it is worth registering with recruitment
agencies because they are paid a fee by employers for finding suitable candidates for
their vacancy. Consequently, the quicker they find you a job they quicker they get
paid. They are also a good place for getting advice on finding a job and they may
help you to prepare your CV and with interview techniques. It’s worth knowing that
some agencies specialise in specific industries or skills. Others are more generalist.
Shop around to find an agency that covers the type of vacancies you are interested
in.




If you are considering temporary work then compare agencies. The rates they pay
for the same type of work may differ. A good agency will give you a fair rate of pay
and treat you well. Don’t forget that working as a temp is often the foot in the door
you need to get a full time job. It gives you a chance to show potential employers
what you can do, so don’t rule out temporary work.




• Careers Advisory Services: If you are 16 -19 the Careers Advisory Services will
offer you advice about your career. They will help you identify the right training
opportunities and provide plenty of support during your search for a job. Their
contact details are:
England


• The Internet: there are a number of websites that advertise jobs. On most of these
you can register your details so that companies can view them when they are looking
for staff. If you don’t have access to the Internet, you can access it at your local
Library, usually free of charge or for a small fee. Using the internet is really easy; all
you need to do is type ‘Jobs Nigeria’ into a search engine

You can also look at all of the Jobcentre vacancies on line at www.jobcentreplus.gov.uk. All these websites are updated regularly throughout the day.
In addition to the specialist job and careers websites, many companies advertise
vacancies on their own websites. It is worth making a list of companies that might
have a vacancy that is suitable for you and visiting their websites. If they have a jobs
section you could visit the site on a regular basis.


• Careers and jobs fairs: an increasing number of job fairs are being held that cover
local jobs for local people of all ages and skills. Employers, particularly larger ones,
attend to promote their companies and find potential workers. On the day you will be
able to meet employers and also get specialist advice about finding a job. Some
employers may even take applications on the day. The fairs are usually held in hotels
or recreation centres will be advertised in your local newspapers.
• Networking: tell your friends and relatives that you are looking for a job. They may
hear about job opportunities that you can apply for and may even be willing to
recommend you to their employer.
• Work experience: joining a work experience programme has its benefits. Not only
will you be learning or developing your skills, you will also be getting valuable
experience by actually doing the job. It also gives you the opportunity to get your foot
in the door of a company where you can demonstrate your strengths.
• Teletext: some companies choose to advertise their vacancies on the text services.
These are updated throughout the day – the page number you need is:
Teletext, page 690 (Channel 4).
• Notices in shop windows or notice boards: more and more companies, especially
retailers, are advertising vacancies in this way. As there is no way of knowing when
these vacancies will be advertised, it’s just a matter of keeping your eyes open and
being quick to respond.
• Promote yourself: this option involves applying for vacancies that may arise within a
company. The ‘anticipating future vacancies’ guide will give you ideas on how
to promote yourself.


However, start by identifying 10 companies in your area that employ people in the
type of roles you are looking for. Read local business news to see if you can spot
any companies that are expanding or moving into the area. They may have a future
staff requirement so write to these companies, introduce yourself and ask to be
considered for any vacancies they may have. Attach your CV to the letter; there is a
guide in this series that can help you prepare one.
It’s always a good idea to phone the company to check if they have received your
details. If they have no vacancies available ask them to keep your details on file so
that you can be considered in the future.
Finally, keep records of who you have contacted and their response. If you do
happen to see them advertising a vacancy in the future that may suit you, call the
company and remind them they have your details.

The purpose of this guide was to help you identify the best routes to finding a job.
Points to remember:

• Understand the job market: only one third of vacancies are ever advertised.
• Know what you want: make a list of what you are looking for and match job
vacancies against it.
• Know your strengths: list your strengths, skills, experience and qualifications and
match them against what the employer is looking for.
• Use the channels: only one third of vacancies are ever advertised so use all the
options available to improve your chances of getting a job.
• Promote yourself: send your details to companies and ask them to keep them on file
until they have a vacancy that you could fill.

From time to time, its only natural to wonder if the person you are romantically involved with is having sex with someone else. The problem becomes compounded when you have dated someone in the past that has violated your trust. Indeed, “cheating” is perhaps one of the most devastating emotional traumas a person can endure.

So how do you know if your suspicions are true? The answer to this question is somewhat complex. What follows are five cues to possible infidelity. These are not intended to act as a complete list and the totality of your partner's behavior should be taken into consideration when examining these cues.

1. You indirectly find out from your partner that he or she is having sex with someone else. This can include:

Smelling “sex” on a partner.
Your partner suddenly asks to have sex with other people.
Your partner suddenly does not want to have sex anymore
Your partner calls you by the name of another person during an act of sex (not a former boyfriend or girlfriend.
2. Revelations of sexual infidelity.

You witness or are directly told of your partner having sex with another.
Your partner confesses to having an affair.
Someone admits to you they have been having sex with your partner.
Exaggerated displays of affection.
Your partner suddenly starts to profess his or her “love” more than they used to.
Your partner suddenly starts acting overly affectionate.
Your partner starts talking about sex more often.
3. Exaggerated displays of affection.

Your partner suddenly starts to profess his or her “love” more than they used to.
Your partner suddenly starts acting overly affectionate.
Your partner starts talking about sex more often.
4. Sexual disinterest or boredom.

Your partner starts to act like he or she is “going through the motions” when having sex.
Your partner suddenly seems less sexually aroused.
Your partner begins to have shorter sex sessions, replacing what was once a long, passionate experience.
5. Emotional disengagement

Your partner doesn't respond when you say, “I love you”.
Your partner suddenly starts acting rude towards you and distancing himself or herself from your daily life.
Your partner starts looking for reasons to start an argument with you and then says, “We just don't get along – we should think about this relationship”.
Your partner changes the subject when a certain person's name comes up and acts anxious.
Your partner refuses to make eye contact with you, where once this was not an issue.
To be sure, nobody wants to be emotionally violated. This is because feelings and emotions are fragile things and it hurts when the person we love causes pain. If you suspect that your partner is cheating, then it might be time to confront him or her and ask for answers. Before doing so, be sure to have a sound basis for making accusations – a charge of infidelity is extremely serious. That said, sometimes that little voice deep inside is right.

Masturbation, is it harmful?

I came back from a week long trip on friday and decided to pay my sweet heart (we've been dating for two years plus) a surprise visit. I had not seen her for some time since i stay in the island and she is doing her teaching practice in Akoka. As i approached the self contain apartment her father had rented for her i was feeling happy because i knew she loved surprises. I quietly let myself in with the key she had given me. I knew she was in because i could hear soft music. I tiptoed from the sitting to her bedroom ready to scream 'surprise!'. I peeped through the half open curtain and my mouth hung open. There was my girl friend with legs wide open rubbing herself with two fingers inserted. She looked like she was really getting the feel of it. Her eyes were closed, her other hand was stroking nipples. She was rolling her waist and moaning softly. I stood transfiexd not knowing how to react. As if by intiution she opened her eyes and our eyes were locked on each others. I quietly went back to the sitting room without saying a word. I heard her going into the bathroom. She came out refreshed and we acted like i didn't see anything. Though the pretense is creating a gap between us. That why i asked Dr. Jones (an online free medical advisor i subscribed to).

Here is what he has to say.


Dr. Jones

Masturbation is stimulation of sex organs by self. It is a solo activity. When two do it to each other, it is called "mutual masturbation." About 93 to 98 per cent of men and 60 to 80 per cent of women do it. However, most of them do not disclose it. It is a normal step in the development of sexuality.

Contrary to common beliefs, masturbation is harmless. Those who masturbate find a sense of physical satisfaction and release of mental tension. It familiarizes oneself with one's own sexual responses.
A woman who has has learnt to have orgasm through masturbation can learn to orgasm through intercourse as well. Most of the men who do not have ejaculation/orgasm are found to have no experience of masturbation.
In many cultures, masturbation is a taboo and much stigma is attached to it. Because of wide spread myths about masturbation, boys are afraid that by doing masturbation, they become weak, get pimples, become insane and that their penis gets bent, decreases in size or get tilted.

Other very common myths are that masturbation causes impotence, makes semen watery or exhaust the stock of semen. None of these is true. Scientists say that masturbation is not at all harmful but is in fact beneficial. It is a safe sexual outlet. It does not cause any bad effect either on the penis or on the general health. Since it is a solo performance, it does not encroach upon anybody's freedom and it can be done at any time. It costs nothing.
Masturbation is the surest way to prevent STD and HIV infections. Sociologists feel that had masturbation not been there, the rapes, homosexuality, prostitution, sexually transmitted diseases and HIV/AIDS would have been on increase.

Boys are worried about the loss of semen which is supposed to be a precious and vital fluid. In fact semen is a fluid meant for throwing out of body. No harm is done if it is thrown out and no benefit is obtained if it is preserved in the body. Sperms and the constituents of the semen are continuously produced in the body. If the semen is not ejaculated at intervals either by masturbation or in sleep, it gets disintegrated and absorbed in the body.
Some boys are worried that they have done "too much" of masturbation and therefore, they have landed into some problems like impotence or weakness. The fact is that there is nothing like "too much." Like sleep, thirst, hunger, the body knows its requirements. The body craves only till the needs are satisfied. The need of sex-outlet is great during the adolescence. Since one cannot have sexual outlet just at will with the opposite sex, nature itself teaches the alternative method of sexual outlet, i.e., masturbation. Animals too masturbate by forelimbs or by rubbing their penis against the trees or such objects.

Not only unmarried men and women masturbate, but married persons also do it when their partner is not around or is sick. Elderly persons also do it. Intense desire for masturbation amongst boys is because of high level of the male sex hormone, testosterone. The frequency of masturbation is less in girls.
Boys masturbate by moving the foreskin of the penis to and fro by fingers or by the fist of the hand. Another common way is the rubbing of penis to the bed, by moving the hip forwards and backwards. In either way, the stimulation of the glans of the penis is continued to the point of ejaculation.

Is there a qualitative difference in the orgasms reached by masturbation and intercourse? In fact, masturbation is an imitation of the intercourse. In masturbation, the penis is steady and the hand moves; while in the intercourse the vagina is steady and the penis moves. In either case, the effect remains the same. (It is something like whether the barrel of the syringe moves or the piston moves, effect is same.) The brain perceives the sensation from the penis in the same way either through masturbation or through intercourse, and triggers the orgasm. Therefore, the quality of orgasm from both these activities remain the same. Hence, masturbation is a safe alternative for sexual intercourse.

Boys are under the impression that girls masturbate by introducing long objects like a banana in their vagina. The sensitive part in girls are the clitoris and the labia minora. Girls stimulate these parts by using fingers, or by making rhythmic movements.

Does one get addicted to masturbation? No. When he gets an opportunity to have sexual relationship with the opposite sex, he can easily switch over to it. Masturbation could cause problems only if it becomes obsessive and compulsive, i.e., doing nothing else but masturbation throughout the day.
Masturbation does not affect one's ability and performance in daily life or in special pursuits such as sports. Many athletes who have won medals have masturbated on the previous night for the release of the tension and to get good sleep. It is also found that the students masturbate more frequently during the preparation time for their examinations.

There are boys who wish to discontinue the 'habit' of masturbation totally, out of guilt or for fear of presumed ill-effects.
First of all, masturbation is not a habit or addiction like smoking or alcohol. It does not harm as tobacco or alcohol does. Masturbation is a normal expression of sexuality during the adolescence. The frequency decreases as the age advances. It is not necessary to go against the stream of the nature. However, the choice is their's.
Those who are keen on quitting masturbation or reducing its frequency may start taking deep interest in other areas of interest, such as sports, physical exercises, music, painting, reading, social service etc. They may also focus on their hobbies and channelise their energy into these directions. This is called "sublimation".
They should make a decision not to masturbate. Every morning they should make the same decision afresh for that day. If they do not succeed they need not repent or feel disappointed. They should make a fresh decision without any guilt feeling, because masturbation is a healthy normal behaviour. If they stop masturbation, it is normal; and if they continue to do it, that is also normal.

Some quacks take advantage of the guilt feelings of masturbation amongst youth and prescribe spurious drugs and remedies to improve the health allegedly "LOST" due to masturbation. This is nothing but cheating. Youth should not fall a prey to such unscrupulous cheats and tricksters.
What harms in masturbation is not the act itself, but the feeling of guilt, shame and anxiety regarding the act. Shedding the latter is enough.